Have a little patience…

In the Bible, at least 10 remarkable women are spoken of for different reasons.I’ve come to understand their lives journey’s were used to display life lessons. There’s one that stuck out to me the most. Her name was Elizabeth, Mother of John the Baptist.

From reading, both Elizabeth and her husband Zechariah come from a priestly family. They were righteous people. During this timeframe the couple were up in age and unable to have children. (Luke 1: 5-7)

One day when Zechariah’s priest division was on duty while he was serving as priest, he was chosen to enter into the temple of the Lord and burn incense. This is where He was visited by an angel.(Luke 1:8-11).

The angel scared him have to death, but he listened to this angel. The angel stated his wife would have a son. He was given instructions to name him John.( Luke 1:12-13).

So, Zechariah’s scratching his head like, umm ok Mr. Angel in case you haven’t noticed, I am well past the age of getting my groove on and so is my wife( he didn’t use these exact words but I think you all get the point) haha. (Luke 1:18)

Unfortunately, he didn’t believe what the angel spoke of. By the way this angel was Gabriel.(Luke 1:19) Before he left the temple, since he did not believe Gabriel, Zechariah’s speech was taken away.(Luke 1:20)

After leaving the temple, Zechariah went home to his wife Elizabeth, she conceived. She thought it would be best to stay away from the world until the proof could be seen pertaining to her pregnancy(Luke 1:24).Her husband didn’t believe, but she kept her faith in the Lord. He showed favor.(Luke 1:25)

During that time it was  believed to be seen as a disgrace, a woman not being able to have children. But she felt that way no more.

To speed it up a little, Elizabeth gave birth to her son.(Luke 1:57) Zechariah still couldn’t speak, however when he wrote down John, the name  Gabriel instructed them to call their son, immediately he was able to speak again.(Luke 1:63-64)

Here’s my point:

It doesn’t matter how old or young you are. It’s normal not to believe in something that looks and seems impossible to achieve. However when serving a God who is the master of doing the impossible, there’s nothing impossible. I am a witness and firm believer, just like Elizabeth and Zechariah, when you wait on the Lord it brings unexpected blessings. So have a little patience.

Did you call your mom yet?

When trying to form a romantic relationship, there’s a lot to factor in from both parties. Where you grew up, the era, values. Who raised you, could have been just mom and or grandmom just to name a few.

A key element no matter who you were raised by, emotional support is needed. While in early development stage, if emotional balance is taught and practiced, it’s something that can be utilized once reaching adulthood.

Don’t get me wrong, LIFE can take you here and there for so many different reasons, but there is a way to tap into emotional stability, especially if it had been insulted already.At times it’s not easy, but it is doable if you try.

Emotional connections are essential to building all kinds of relationships. For example a mother and son relationship. Naturally mothers have a connection with their children. However, some times emotional connection isn’t there, for so many different circumstances and situations.

In my posts, “Going along with the flow” and “Neighbors can’t live with them or without them“, I spoke of a man once involved with. In “Going along with the flow“, I mention how I ignored the “Red Flags”. Would like to elaborate on these “Red Flags”.

There’s a saying that makes a lot of sense to me. Was said to me many of times throughout my life, Pay attention to how a man treats his mother. Going back in my mind, pertaining to the time involved with this man, it was evident, he had Mommy issues.

Was told by this man, at an early age he was raised by his grandmom. His mom wasn’t around. Mom was pretty much in her own world. Dad had gone to jail, didn’t want to stay with his step mom because she was mean to him.

It seems at an early age he painted a picture of women and it wasn’t a good one. After being around him for a while, I’d asked him why he doesn’t talk to his mom”. First time, received a convincing sad story that led me to try to help him work through his Emotional Abandonment from his mom.That was the wrong move.

He would get defensive every time after that. I was flat-out told, you don’t know what she did, or what’s going on. I  could see the anger, the edge in his body language.Words and tone of voice, he had some major beef with his mom. From all of this, it meant mind your business.

So, I stopped asking about mom dukes, asked about ex girlfriend’s. For some reason I wasn’t surprised, he had nothing good to say about them either.

Then it all made sense to me I wasn’t any different, he had a huge dislike for ALL women.This man wasn’t a wounded lion-cub, that I could nurse him back from his wounds. It also made me question the reasons, he chose to be in a relationship with me.

He wanted to play my “Hero”. Superman is what I used to call him. As I mention in my posts,”Going along with the flow‘ and “Neighbors can’t live with them or without them“, my life was pretty much all over the place when we met. Was stuck. But once, I started getting my groove back, his masked emotions emerged.

He didn’t like me being able to stand on my own to feet. His PLAN for ME, was to depend on him for everything. Whenever there was a change in his plan because I wanted to better myself, the rage came out. We would pick senseless arguments. His rage took him all the way to another planet.He would come back to planet Earth as if he had no clue he just act a fool for no reason. I think saying something disparaging to me and about me was his favorite.

He needed someone who made him feel, strong, competent,masculine, most of all “NOT A NUT CASE”. I tried all of this, but it had to be crafted the way he wanted it to be. Meaning he had to have control. He was looking for a puppet. But I was the wrong one for the position.

I came to an understanding his emotions were stunned behind him having or the lack of having a relationship with the most prominent woman of his life, His mother.

In all seriousness, he needed therapy. His issues were way above my pay grade, they needed to be brought to the surface and handled. He was trying to hide what was illing him on the inside, but demonstrating a character of charm, heroism, and a deep concern to help someone in need. That was all a LIE.

He was indeed a “Predator”. He needed a woman who was down on her luck.Easy to fool because of her circumstances.

The thing about this dude, he didn’t want to change. He was well aware of what he was saying and doing. He knew he was emotionally detached from the world. Had a temper like one I haven’t  had to deal with up close and personally.Yet he remained the same. Once he realized the “Jig was up” and I was on to him. He had no choice but to let me be and leave me alone forever and a day.

Here’s my point: