Ask the right questions Part 2

On my October 26, 2016 entry,  I shared a story entitled Ask the right questions. Which was along the lines of questions I should have asked myself before moving forward in the relationship at that time.

Within Ask the right questions Part 2″, I’d like to share a few questions I’ve asked myself, for myself, to form a BETTER relationship and understanding of myself. I’ll start with this question, What would I Love to do? The answer to this question is, I would Love to talk.

I read an interesting quote by Abraham Lincoln it reads, Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe”.

This quote resonates with the question I asked myself. It seems Abraham Lincoln may have asked himself too. What would I Love to do?

Maybe he said, “I would love to chop this tree down in the allotted six hours given”. These simple six words opened the door for the next question. What should I do First? In his case the sharpening of the axe.

To give a little background about Abraham Lincoln. Before he became President of the United States, he was recognized as a skilled woodcutter. Also he has been known to practice his secret to  success. Using  the sharpest tools to get any job or task done. The end results, were productive.

When asking oneself, What would I love to do? To reach an answer,  pick up, sharpen and use your most important tool. The Mind.

Referring back to the four hours Abraham Lincoln used to sharpen the axe, my first thought was this sounds tiresome. However, this was the most important part of his task, Preparation.

How do you prepare, Start by asking yourself the Right questions. I believe we are gifted with our own personalized gifts. Have you ever realized there may be a few things that come natural to you, without thinking of a way to make whatever it is happen?

For me, I’ve realized my strongest gift(we all have more than one)“,Gift of Communication”.  This can explain my answer to the question, What would I Love to do? Naturally, I can approach anyone respectfully and engage in a conversation. Especially when the other person’s inviting and receptive.

Once I truly embraced my Free Gift( I am all for Free99)Haha, I had some work to do. This work involves more questions, preparation and action.

Here’s a few questions I asked myself:

What are you going to do with this Gift of Communication?

Are you setting time daily to work towards Mastering your gift?

Are you focused?

Is there anything you are “Allowing” to hold you back?(Fear, Anxiety, Procrastination)

Are you being Productive or Constrictive?

Here’s my point:

Ask the right questions!

In my next entry I will discuss the Preparation steps I’ve used and continue to use for the questions I asked myself…

Comments are appreciated!

 

 

 

 

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When to take a step back

There have been many occasions in my life when I felt the need to step up to the plate and take a stand for others.

Within myself I said, Self this person needs you to step up and fight for them for many different reasons. I was wrong a few times.

Here’s my point:

I realized I’m not going to be around all the time. I’ve come to realize apart of my ability is to be a leader. As a leader, there will be times where my position is to share, ONLY what I’ve learned.

Sharing is still helping.It helps others think for themselves in hopes of a positive result.

As a leader, I am learning, when to take a step back…

Quote of the day Part 4

I wonder if others understand how their emotions can affect others…

I wonder if  others understand how their actions affect others…

I wonder if others understand how after their actions there’s a reaction from others…

I wonder if others understand how not having and understanding of their emotions and actions leaves the mind open to wonder…

Here’s my point:

I wonder…

Rhonda Richardson(Writer)

 

START with your happiness FIRST

We all want to be happy in life. Whether it’s being a happy homeowner. Happily married with children. Happy with the career of your dreams. We also want other’s around us to be happy. Have you ever noticed within yourself, the things we have said and done for other’s, including placing our needs to the back burner?
Let me share a few examples I realized about myself. Being the bearer of other’s happiness.

The Financial Crutch:

I found myself allowing people to depend on me. I would make myself available as if I were a 24 hour 7 eleven’s ATM. Don’t get me wrong, I believe we all need a helping hand every now and then.

It wasn’t until I literally became flat broke, I discovered a few things.
This is when I learned their were people who felt I let them down. A few choice words from both sides were said because of me not being able to “fix” things.

Solution to NOT being the financial crutch:

I can still assist but there has to be a cut off point. Example after going through my budget, let’s say I incorporate $50.00 a month as the allotted amount for financial assistance.
I made a firm decision not to go over this amount. Ensured I’d make it clear to the person(s) I’m assisting the allotted monthly amount is final.

The Emotional Crutch:

What we all have in common as human beings is, we all struggle with something. Some more than others. There were times I found myself having therapy sessions, free of charge. I made those persons problems my problems that I had to fix it. Wouldn’t rest until I did.

I convinced myself, I’m a tough cookie, who can take on anything. I’d be alright when my own personal crisis came up, I got it under control. This way of thinking, was wrong.
At one point never did get around to my own situations. They just piled up. The pile was so high and overwhelming it caused me to become emotionally unstable. This led to making irrational decisions for myself.

Solution to NOT being the emotional crutch:

I had to deal with my own situations and emotions first. The saying is true, how can you help someone else, if you can’t even help yourself first.

Here’s my point:

Within these two examples of the Financial crutch and the Emotional crutch, we need to be able to balance our own situations first. It doesn’t make you a bad, uncaring, selfish person.

When a helping hand is needed, be sure you’re positioned first.
Truth be told, you can’t give what you don’t have. How fair will that be to yourself?